Tips for Sugardaddies No.4 – Sugarbabe or Pimp?

Ok, so you’re on a Sugardating website and you’ve struck up a convo with a hot, potential Sugarbabe.

She’s sent you some pretty explicit pictures, she’s up for anything and prefers a pay by date arrangement.

This is all good you think.

Just wait a minute, how would you feel if you knew you’re having this hot convo with a guy, who’s controlling this profile and another half a dozen?

That’s taken the edge off hasn’t it? ūüėČ

Does this happen?

Sure does, two SBs I have met both admitted that their profiles were created and managed by, well, pimps.

They gave a % of their ‘pay by date’ fee to these guys.

So, how do you spot if your SB is an escort in disguise?

Few things to look for, firstly, I’d say the whole pay per date thing.

Secondly, when you’re having this hot convo, ask for a picture with them holding up today’s date – I know that’s a sure test, twice I’ve asked for that and the convo magically ended. (My thanks to JustaSugarDaddy for this tip)

Lastly, look for very similar profiles – these guys are lazy and they will often simply copy & paste between the profiles of the girls they manage – simply do an advanced search for an unusual phrase one uses, if it’s used elsewhere, it’ll pop up.

Lastly, if you’re bothered that the woman you’ve met is an escort and that really bothers you, then be suspicious of jobless SBs, that obvs doesn’t include students…How do they support themselves if they don’t have a job, or a (genuine) rich daddy?

But then, you may decide it doesn’t matter…

 

Why some Women need a Sugardaddy…

I really do think some women need a Sugardaddy and don’t know it.

Let me tell you what I mean….

After a long afternoon helping a client at a strategy meeting, he suggested our teams head out for a drink, to celebrate the project being pretty much done.

Another lovely day in London (it can’t last) and so we headed to a cool bar in Smithfield, just outside the City, with a large terrace.

As the evening wore on and people drifted away home, I was left chatting to a cool, intelligent 25 year old woman, who’s one of my client’s sales team.

She is quite attractive, sports some discrete but sexy tattoos and has a figure made for the short black dress she was wearing.

But there was something missing.

Something about her wasn’t captivating me, I tried to work it out, then it hit me, no grooming.

Her fingernails were shocking, no polish and no manicure. Then I noticed her shoes, she was wearing flats, ok, no great crime, but they were scruffy.

This is a woman who is complaining to me that she sees guys, a lot of them quite senior, all day in her job and she can’t work out why they’re not hitting on her.

I then noticed that her lipstick looked as if it had been put on by a blind women on a dark night.

I wanted to tell her that her appearance was lacking a certain finesse, but couldn’t work out a polite way to say it.

I just wondered for a moment if I should mention my Sugardaddy life and how I insist the ladies I see are beautifully groomed and how it makes such a difference to their confidence.

It’s not all about money, it’s about presentation and personal standards, it’s about creating the impression that you are a serious grown-up and that you are someone that’s serious in life as in business.

I left her, glad that I hadn’t let a couple of glasses of wine loosen my discretion, but also feeling a little sad that this woman’s potential success was being held back by want of a Sugarbabe style grooming makeover.¬†

 

 

 

Tips for Sugardaddies No. 3 – Getting Started

So, you’ve decided to take the plunge….

You’ve checked your schedule, you’ve got the time to fit in a Sugarbabe.

Your money’s good, you have a couple of thousand a month that can disappear from your income without raising eyebrows, or forcing your partner to reduce her shoe buying habit.

Great…

Now, let’s find a Sugarbabe.

The main sites in the UK are SeekingArrangement.com and Sugardaddie.com. I would recommend Seeking Arrangement for starters. In my experience it’s easier to use and the women are a little more sophisticated than Sugardaddie.com, which seems to attract a lot of wannabe dreamers.

Anyway, first step is to sign up, but before you do that you will first need a disposable email account, say from gmail or hotmail.

Get that set up, make it totally anonymous and ideally have a username that’s¬†randomly¬†generated, it makes it harder to be cracked.

Now you’re ready.

However, before you can launch yourself on either, I strongly recommend that you think about how you want to go about this.

The moment you launch a profile on say, Seeking Arrangement, you will be bombarded with approaches – is this what you want?

You may decide that you would be better off playing it stealthy and searching the profiles of Sugarbabes instead.

In my experience, this will cut out a whole load of hassle and wasted time.

I first went on these sites three years ago and after my first relationship, I never made my profile public again.

The other bonus to this is that if you ended a Sugar relationship by fibbing that you were off the scene, you don’t have to deal with messages from her calling you a liar!

Now, the next bit is important, your profile and your pictures, this needs a bit of thought, I’ll talk about that next.

 

 

 

Tips for Sugardaddies No.2 – Look Before you Leap

OK, so you’ve decided to take a plunge into the Sugarbowl and wonder where to start.

Well, let’s get our ducks in a row first, to use that terrible expression from my Business School days.

Firstly, have you got the time?

The sort of guy who can afford a Sugarbabe is generally a successful self-made guy, or someone in a senior salaried job. With the sort of ¬£100k + salary you will be earning, you’ll know all about putting the hours in. Will you be able to devote time to see your chosen babe 3-4 times a month? Remember, with the hours you work, something’s gonna have to give. Just make sure it’s the golf, or those nights out with the boys, rather than your partner or kids…or you’ll be rumbled PDQ…

Secondly, well, it’s the money…

You are not going to be spending much less than £2,000 ($3,400) a month.

Yes, I know you and the gorgeous Sugarbabe agreed ¬£1,000 ($1,700) as an allowance, but have you factored in gifts, dinners, hotels (you’re not thinking of using a mate’s flat I hope?!), cab fares, etc.

Last year I kept a record of 6 months spending on my Sugarbabe, it was £17,000 ($29,000).

OK, some of that was hotels I would have had for work anyway, but that leaves an awful lot of plain, old, Sugar.

Are you the Right Type?

What do I mean by that – simply, can you live the life?

Sure, you’re thinking, I’d love to be seen around with a gorgeous 28 year old blond, who fucks wildly and looks hot…but really, do you?

Can you cope with the deception involved, not just to your wife/partner, but your boss, your business partners, even your friends. You have to be a quick thinker, you have to be able to improvise rationally and quickly if you are ever in a tight corner.

You also have to be methodical, like some kind of MI6 graduate, you must be able to run two very separate lives and ensure they never meet.

Lastly, can you keep a secret?

Don’t even think about sharing your Sugarlife with your mates – that’s just dumb. Your mate sleeps with his wife, who’s maybe friends with yours…it’s a connection too close.

I have friends I went to Uni with, or even school, who I’d do anything for, that I’ve known for 20+ years.

None of them know I fuck girls who call me Daddy.

Best kept that way.

 

Tips for Sugardaddies No.1 – Ditch the Phone

Since many of my readers are prospective, or newbie, SD’s, I thought I’d take the time to pass on a few of the things I’ve learnt.

I’m going to assume that you’re married, or in a significant other relationship, so if you want to have a lengthy and satisfying career as a Sugardaddy, not getting caught is a priority.

By priority, I mean a totally important, never to be forgotten, imperative that must guide all that you do.

There is also the sensible reason that you don’t want to give your Sugarbabe every detail of your other life.

So, first off, the stating the glaringly obvious lesson – ditch the phone.

Do not, ever, use your personal phone to communicate with a Sugarbabe. Get a Pay as You Go, it’s untraceable, cheap (not that it should be a consideration if you can afford to be running a Sugarbabe) and its SIM card can be ditched in seconds.

I have two identical Galaxy S3’s, one is personal/work, the other purely for my SD life. My ‘Sugarphone’ lives hidden in my car and never enters my house.

If, like me, you have a tech savvie wife, don’t even think of trying to hide texts or emails on your phone from your Sugarbabe. Hidden email and text programs can be spotted in seconds by someone who knows what they’re looking for.

Similarly, don’t try and be cute (and tight) by using a program like Hushed, (it generates random, time-limited numbers for one-off use), crazy – a total giveaway.

By all means use them on your Sugarphone, but don’t think they’ll fool anyone who’s trying to find evidence of your off-piste activities on your regular phone.

Most of all, don’t do what you don’t do.

The simplest way to arouse suspicion is if you suddenly develop a full-on texting habit, don’t do it, ever.

A quiet, dull evening at home may move you to the urge to swap some dirty pillow text with your hot Sugarbabe, but my friend, I tell you this, it’s the quickest way you’ll attract suspicion.

Oh, one last thing, I really do need to repeat it, your Sugarphone NEVER enters your house, EVER.